How to Address a Family With Two Last Names
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(Closed) How would yous address an invitation to a family with two last names?
posted 10 years agone in Etiquette
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Bumble bee
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2017
In most cases where I'm sending an invitation to a couple and their children, I'd just write "The Smith Family." Merely I have a state of affairs where my aunt, who has four daughters by her first married man, has remarried, and while she has taken her new married man's final name, her daughters have kept their concluding proper name. And then say my aunt and her married man have the last name Jones, and her daughters have the last name Smith, and then her hubby too has a daughter, whose last name is Jones.
"The Jones Family" doesn't seem right to me (fifty-fifty though I grew up in a household where my last proper name was different than everyone else'southward, and I didn't have any problem being referred to equally function of "The Doe Family" when my last name wasn't Doe – in this state of affairs it seems meaning to me that in that location are 4 girls whose concluding name is Smith – in fact, the Smiths outnumber the Joneses in this household, even though Jones is the name of the married couple).
Then I thought about "The Jones-Smith Family unit," but does that seem odd? Because nobody'south final name is actually hyphenated.
I retrieve that leaves me with "Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Mary Jones & Family" (because I don't think my aunt is the blazon of lady who'd similar to be referred to as "Mrs. Bob Jones"). Though that just sounds like a mouthful.
Thoughts? I call up I am leaning towards the final option…
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Newbee
- ms.christmas_deer
- ten years agone
- Wedding: June 2013
In my house growing upwards nosotros had three last names under i roof. Not everyone realized the tricky state of affairs and would address envelopes to "the_____family" and utilize whatever concluding name they were near familiar with (if it was a co-worker of my step father they would use his terminal proper name, for case). Family unit and close friends, still, addressed all things using all v of our kickoff names which I always preferred. You can write your aunt and uncles name on one line and then list the four children underneath.
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Newbee
- ms.christmas_deer
- 10 years agone
- Wedding: June 2013
I didn't mean to hit submit yet… Haha
I was going to say, I remember if the options you listed the final is the best; the patents areleaned and the kids, regardlessname last name, are covered by "family." I remember that'due south your all-time bet if yous want the invitation to sound more formal 🙂 hope that helps!
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Newbee
- ms.christmas_deer
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Ok, last comment in a row, I swear but I just take to say…. Autocorrect with a iPhone on this site is horrific! That sentence should say "the parents are named and the kids, regardless of last name, are covered…"
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Newbee
- moj1966
- x years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
@ms.christmas_deer: I would put the smith – jones family
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Bumble bee
- GreenGables
- 10 years ago
- Hymeneals: September 2017
Thanks for your thoughts, guys. 🙂
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Decorated bee
- HeMadeMeWantTo
- 10 years agone
- Wedding ceremony: Apr 2013
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
and Family
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Busy bee
- Mrs. Conduct Cheese Pie
- 10 years ago
- Wedding ceremony: September 2013
In your case I would practise like HeMadeMeWantTo said and put
Mr. And Mrs. Smith
And Family
Just, I do experience where y'all're coming from. If someone were to transport me an invitation with all our names, they would all be unlike. My Fiance has his last proper name, apparently, I have my maiden name, and my girl has the name of her biological father. I think we would be:
Mr. Jon W
and Miss Tricia H—
Dazzling South
Families are complicated, for real. I've started making our guest listing just so nosotros can tell venues an estimaed guest list number. I have several that are complicated. Good luck!
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Buzzing bee
- BothCoasts
- ten years agone
- Hymeneals: October 2010
How formal is your nuptials? And practice the daughters still live at home?
It's much, much easier if you are using inner and outer envelopes.
Outer will read: Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones (You tin do "Ann and Bob Jones," but technically, "Mr. Bob Jones and Ms. Ann Jones" sometimes is interpreted as the 2 are siblings who live together. Although, in this mean solar day and age, if you think your aunt volition really care, and so screw it and do what you want)
Inner (/=line separation): Ann & Bob Jones / Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, Christine Doe / Amy Jones (Amy, in this instance, goes last because it'due south alpha order afterward family "rank"–ie, parents always become first)
If you are merely doing outer envelopes then you could do:
Ann & Bob Jones & Family unit
or
Ann & Bob Jones
Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, and Christine Doe
Amy Jones
or
Ann & Bob Jones
Amy, Elizabeth, Christine, Margaret, and Mary (I alpha ordered them, only you tin do it by historic period every bit well)
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Bumble bee
- GreenGables
- 10 years agone
- Hymeneals: September 2017
@BothCoasts: Nope, no inner envelopes – saving trees and money. 🙂
The wedding is non terribly formal – semi-formal, I approximate. The invitations are not super formal. They're worded traditionally, but without titles for our names and parents' names. I am using titles on the envelopes, though. Then we're writing in the names of all individuals invited on the RSVP card (so it's articulate who's invited, and to avoid a scenario where someone sends dorsum an RSVP without writing in their proper name).
For a lot of couples, when addressing the envelopes, I'm using Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Ann Jones because I know some people will just be flat-out offended by Mr. & Mrs. Bob Jones. Though I accept never heard that writing "Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Ann Jones" might be misinterpreted equally a blood brother and sis. I have always heard that writing people'south names on the same line joined with "and" denotes that they are married/in a human relationship, and that if yous addressing an envelope to roommates or siblings each proper noun goes on a split line.
Regardless, I suppose it doesn't matter, because the only people receiving the envelope will be Bob and Ann, and I'm pretty sure they know they're married. 😀
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Busy bee
- ElbieKay
- x years ago
- Wedding ceremony: September 2011
I would do this:
Mr. & Mrs. Michael Brady
Greg, Jan, Peter, Marcia, Bobby & Cindy
UNLESS the daughters are adults. I don't think information technology's appropriate to drop the last proper noun if they're adults.
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